Sorry to Bother You: Blameless Apologies and the Moral Significance of Empathy

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Smiling woman in black sits cross-legged on a bed; beside her, a reddish-brown Goldendoodle sits on a striped rug.

Mercedes Corredor, assistant professor of philosophy at Virginia Tech, visits campus to deliver an  engaging talk on empathy.  Philosophers have traditionally held that apologies require an admission of blameworthiness —to apologize just is to acknowledge wrongdoing. However, people frequently apologize for blameless actions, such as a parent who apologizes for their newborn’s inconsolable crying on a long-haul flight or someone who apologizes for accidentally spilling red wine on their colleague’s white blouse. I argue that such “blameless apologies” are intelligible and meaningful not because they communicate that the apologizer understands their hurtful action to be wrongful, but because they recognize that the action warrants empathy. When we engage in empathy, we undergo a process of imaginative perspective-taking – we attempt to see and feel things as another does. And so, on my view, blameless apologies mean: I put myself in your shoes, I see things as you do, and I share in your pain. This account explains why blameless apologies can be sincere and meaningful, even when no moral fault is involved, while at the same time shedding light on the moral significance of empathy.